Ask Four Poles

You just need to train him. Each time he kisses you badly, knee him in the groin. He'll learn soon enough.

No, it's OK. People break up with other people all the time for petty reasons (when they're shallow, insecure, pathetic, and have intimacy issues.)
But I'm sure that's not you.

Yes it is a good enough reason, for his sake, because it will be better to not waste his time with your unimportant and minsicule dislikes.

Yes, relationships have ended because of this. If kissing is something that's very important to you (as it is with many people), then being with someone whose kisses you don't enjoy can be difficult.

Telling him won't necessarily hurt his feelings. If he's too rough, for example, stop him as he's about to kiss you and, with a smile, whisper, "gently." Then let him lean in for the kiss. Or, try telling him to kiss you the way you kiss him (which can be a great teaching tool).

Before you go and end the relationship, it'd certainly be worth trying to teach him! If he ignores your requests or can't change, then you have a problem.

Good thinking. You don't want to harm her more, so stay away from her body like it's some sort of deadly disease.

That should really help a lot.

The best thing to do is to give her an outlet to take out all of her anger and frustration. If you're the one to provide her with this help, she'll trust you.

So, buy a strap-on and let her rape the living shit out of your asshole. Let her really get into it and take out all her aggravation. After that, you're both winners. She'll feel better, and she'll trust you so it'll be good for you as well.

Well, seeing that she has been raped so many times, I can't really blame you for being unsure about doing anything. But just make sure she knows that you are not gay because of your inaction.

First if all, Is she seeing a therapist? If not, she's likely going to continue being a victim by looking for dysfunctional relationships until she gets help.

People respond to trauma in different ways. The best thing you can do is be honest and explain your difficulties. Being aware of them should reduce the possibility of her confusing your actions with rejection, and she can then tell you exactly what she needs and likes. Be sure to discuss it very carefully and considerately.

If she sees a therapist, perhaps you might consider asking to go to a session with her to discuss the topic. If it's something with which she's comfortable, then it could be beneficial to the relationship.

I suppose you'll have your answer in about six months, huh?

You must be a real catch that someone would tell you they're dying to get rid of you!

I must admit, I end every relationship this way, so it's not that bad. I just change the terminal disease I'm dying from.

What, just because you had cybersex with this guy once every few months means you're gonna be devastated if he lied? How are you gonna feel if he is really terminally ill? You are that selfish that you are more worried about your own miserable, sexless life than the fact that he may be dead in 6 months. Maybe it should be you that is terminally ill.

There are people that would stoop that low, yes. That doesn't mean, though, that he's one of them.

Is there a particular reason that you distrust him? You didn't really say much about him at all. Personally, I can't imagine why you'd think someone you've been seeing for three years would lie about dying.

Hey! I smell another blockbuster romantic comedy in the works!

Unless that "certain something" you have is a big dick and a hairy asshole, forget it.
He'll have sex with you and then begin to miss the beauty of a man's asshole, as all men would.

This would be like you telling one of your straight friends that she had that special something that would turn you lesbian. It's just not gonna happen.

A gay person can't "go straight" for someone. People don't have a choice about being gay or straight.

He may have some feelings of attraction for you, the same way heterosexual people can have same-sex feelings without being gay.

Personally, I think he's probably just confused about his feelings.

It's gonna take money... a whole lotta spendin' money...

"We tried, we failed?" What the hell does that mean?
Maybe date a girl who's older than 11.

How about first turning age 16 at least?

I can't possibly give you advice if you don't describe the problem. All you told us is "we failed" (which doesn't even make sense, since the beginning of the question makes it sound like she doesn't want to have sex).

Have him try to put his penis into your vagina (the wet hole) instead of your anus.

I say you're stuck in a sex life of mutual masturbation and oral sex. Enjoy.

I say go fuck yourself then...literally and figuratively.

Assuming you've had an examination and ruled out a possible medical problem, it's likely that you're just not ready (in the big sense, or in the moment).

If you're sure you want to have sex with this man, then it could be that the two of you aren't doing enough to prepare. You need to be aroused so that your vagina self-lubricates, which will allow his penis to enter. Just lie down together and relax. Enjoy each other and each others' bodies (kissing, cuddling, etc.). Don't think about sex and the problem will likely take care of itself.

If any part of you doesn't feel comfortable with having sex with him, then wait. It's your body keeping you from doing something you don't really want to do.